1 :: I am perfectly content right now as a single gal. I am not wishing, or waiting, for Mr. Right to sweep me off my feet right now. Sure, I wouldn’t mind *at all* if he were around…but he’s not. And that is really. and truly. fine. by. me.

2 :: My post was more about the fact that I don’t know HOW to date. Meaning, I have a hard time just having fun with the whole process. Instead, I feel I pretty much know from the first few interactions if a guy is going to be someone I really want to be around. I don’t consider that a bad thing…but there are times I second guess myself and wonder if I’m so serious that I’m missing out. There are other times I’m simply thankful to be that serious because it saves me a lot of time.

3 :: The final point I was trying to make about me not knowing how to date was that, even armed with all my seriousness and discernment, I’ve managed to pick some not-so-nice guys in the past.

There it is. Hopefully that makes more sense. Eh? Does it? Oh, and in case you’re curious. I have made my final selection on a life coach. ; )

I’m 26 years old. I didn’t really start dating until I was 20. But in the past six years, I’ve had a fair amount of strange experiences. I’ve dated a couple guys who haven’t wanted to hurt me, so they’ve just waited things out till I break up with them. I dated a guy who prophesied over our waitress at a huge restaurant (a prophesy that ended up not coming to fruition). I was given a heads up that one breakup was coming via Twitter. And I was told my standard winter outfit of jeans and a Northface fleece didn’t make me pretty. Ha. And I can honestly say I’m not bitter about these things. Now I look back at them and chuckle (or chortle…even snicker, if you will). But this six year long stretch has made me realize that I simply don’t know how to date.

I don’t know what kind of person to look for. I feel like I know what *not* to look for…but that knowledge hasn’t gotten me very far in the past. So I just feel stuck. Not sure that I’m up for getting into yet another dating relationship (should one present itself).

Now I completely understand all the cliches…and believe them to be true. Every door closes until one stays open, you meet a lot of frogs before you meet your prince, so on and so forth. But in the meantime, how does one figure out just HOW to date. HOW to choose a person that will treat you like a human being, even when things aren’t working out. HOW to know when to keep things light and casual, and when to open yourself up a little bit more.

Sigh.

I know it’s part of the process. But I think I need a life coach for this. So it’s on this year’s Christmas list. Anyone? Dating life coach?